HIJACKING THIS THREAD TO TALK ABOUT MYSELF AW YISS
...This. Describes all of the relationships I love reading about. They don't involve the usual romantic relationship narrative, but the people in the relationships still get what they need out of it. And in fact, most of them wouldn't get that out of society's idea of what a healthy relationship is like.
Also, it brings to mind a story that my dad loves telling about a course he took in college where the prof had two couples come in: one who treated each other politely and respectfully and talked quietly about their day, and the other who argued the entire time. And afterwards, the professor asked them which couple they thought was 'healthier,' and almost everyone said the first group, but it turned out the second couple were happier in their relationship. They worked their problems out better and enjoyed each other more, blah blah the whole point is just that what works for some people doesn't work for others.
And, uh, to clarify, I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything, I'm more preaching to the choir here, I'm pretty sure.
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Date: 2012-05-17 02:44 pm (UTC)From:...This. Describes all of the relationships I love reading about. They don't involve the usual romantic relationship narrative, but the people in the relationships still get what they need out of it. And in fact, most of them wouldn't get that out of society's idea of what a healthy relationship is like.
Also, it brings to mind a story that my dad loves telling about a course he took in college where the prof had two couples come in: one who treated each other politely and respectfully and talked quietly about their day, and the other who argued the entire time. And afterwards, the professor asked them which couple they thought was 'healthier,' and almost everyone said the first group, but it turned out the second couple were happier in their relationship. They worked their problems out better and enjoyed each other more, blah blah the whole point is just that what works for some people doesn't work for others.
And, uh, to clarify, I'm not trying to convince anyone of anything, I'm more preaching to the choir here, I'm pretty sure.