i'm medicated, how are you?

[ryanleeds]

I was reading Scalzi's post about how straight white men have it easier and I felt he did a really good job at explaining the concept to people who are frightened of the word privilege.

Then I read the comments. Of course people are overreacting and even claiming that a queer woman of color has it easier than a straight white man in modern society. Although there are some good comments in there from people who finally get the concept. So while some people may not have read it closely, some people benefited it. I'm probably going to bookmark it for when people are being ignorant.

Then I am following the Undead Press saga, which is getting more and more ridiculous as it goes on. And is making me slightly wary of small presses in general, but I'll probably get over that.

I really want to get a subscription to Discover when I have the chance. I remember enjoying it so much as a kid and there's something about actually holding a magazine and reading it.

Also, I'm having difficulty getting words out right now (well words I like). I'm still working on my challenge, but I have very little plot worked out and I'm still running into the wall of healthy relationships being way too boring.

Comments

[magistrate]

Does the story have to include a healthy relationship, or be about a healthy relationship?

[ryanleeds]

The story isn't really about the healthy relationship, it's just a pretty big part of the story so far. And I'm also not entirely sure it's actually healthy.

[magistrate]

I was just thinking – if the relationship isn't the point of the story, it seems like you might be able to focus on something you do find interesting and let the relationship play a support role instead of a focus role. Though I don't know the specifics of the thing you're writing.

Or there could be negotiation and challenge in the relationship which is handled in a healthy way, but which could still engender some drama?

[ryanleeds]

Hnn.

Basically, the major drama in the relationship focuses on the challenge in the relationship -- the protagonist's partner has fallen out of religion while her wife has been called into the church. This is coming more into the forefront as their oldest son is starting to develop his own ideas about religion.

I think you have it right -- let the relationship play the motivation for the protagonist's spiritual journey, but allow more dialogue in the relationship so the protagonist and her partner handle their spiritual differences without letting it ruin their relationship, or poison the protagonist's relationship with her wife.